i'm a very firm believer in intentional parenting. i believe that children are a gift from God and that as a mother i have been given the responsibility of raising adults (because, after all we raise adults not children don't we?). and because i have been blessed (yes, blessed) with this responsibility i'd better darned well do it with purpose and i'd better do all of it on purpose.
this means i have to grow up. i don't get to be selfish anymore. it means i'm ON the hook and i never can get off it. i-just-want-to-get-this-done days are absolute trainwrecks. and days where i-just-don't-want-anyone-to-talk/yell/whinge/look-at-me are equally as carnage inducing. it means that every choice i make from now on is made with the character of my children in mind.
it was my birthday. i wanted to be worshipped and adored and didn't want to do any parenting, cooking, cleaning la de da all day long. just me, me, fabulous me! i thought i could get away with it cos JR was home. figured no one would notice if i logged out (took myself OFF the hook) for the day.
wrong! the kids were vicious and feral. i was entirely wrung out by the end of the day....but i knew exactly why. happens every time.
i knew that unless i wanted a repeat of yesterday's carnage i'd better get my head straight and my game on before my feet hit the floor. God's grace is sufficient. a commitment to kindness and gentleness works miracles in our daily home life. seriously, miracles. so miraculous in fact that the kids tidied their room on their own initiative!! i know!!!!! i almost died too~
and then, the one i know i know i know, (but it's just so much hardwork).... consistency. i re-reminded myself of what is unacceptable in this family and jumped all over it the second i caught a sniff of it (as opposed to harping all day then being so mad.....*sigh* yanno).
the moral of the story is: i have kids. they are special precious gifts. i want them to be fantastic adults. therefore i always gotta have my game face on. hard truth (jelly-for-bones exhausting truth!) but it's where i am and i want to do this well. after all....the children, as they say, are our future :)