Tuesday, September 13, 2011

what's the time mama bear?

as well as including important times like, birth days and feeding times, the motherhood manual should have also included these two times: 10pm and 3am.

10pm Guilt Hour
this is when there's been a cool-down period from being kid-sapped and you start thinking like this: {i did blankblankblank SO terribly today. my kids will be eternally scarred. i'm not fit to be a mother. i should adopt my kids out....etc}

and 3am Worry Hour
this is when problems seem insurmountable and overwhelming. you should at all costs never wake between 3-4am (unless of course your newborn is crying and needs feeding...) however, if you should happen to wake, pray sleep will return hastily before you notice that enormous Worry standing at the end of your bed, wanting to worry your sleep away.

i'm used to the 10pm Guilt Hour but this morning i was woken by a babe that needed to pee at 4am and woah! hello Worry Hour!
i may have had a minor freak out about having FIVE children.
 and...(you can laugh if you need to, but problems stand BIG and REAL at the end of one's bed when it's 4am)...producing enough breastmilk to keep a fifth child alive as well as doing everything i am currently doing.
yup, freeeakkked oouuuttt!

needless to say, we are already now in high-prep mode for baby's arrival. i'm talking CHORES TRAINING!! oh yes. training habits hard now to save on nagging later (hopefully!!)

oh, and if anyone has tips for getting (multiple) kids into the car without having to swallow a bottle of blood-pressure tablets, i'd be deeply grateful. (aside: i sometimes envy animal mamas who never have to find clothes and socks and shoes for each of their babies. or train them to do chores...sheesh, cruisy!)

X

ps. don't tell my mum i freaked out. it's cool....really... ;)


16 comments:

  1. Haha, totally can relate to those times. I always have the guilt hour and I pray every night I won't wake at 3am...if I do I pray myself back to sleep. I hate the 3am worrying hour (or longer!)
    As for getting kids into the car... for some reason mine are pretty good at getting in the car ...despite watching two of my friends struggle this week (one with 2 children, the other with 4)..
    And chores.... argh! chores..still training mine.

    You will be fabulous with 5, look how awesome you are with 4!!!

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  2. Ah yes I know the 10pm guilt hour and the 3am worry hour all too well. I've been such a yelly-mama lately they've haunted me more often than I'd have liked!
    and I'm sure you'll be fine with your 5 ~~ Lukes mum had 7 plus 2 whangai kids and she's only half bonkers now, haha! ;o) xx

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  3. oh I feel your pain!! Why won't children just get into the car and sit in their seats?? And where are all the socks??? Seriously I don't think there has been a matching pair of kids socks in this house since Julia became PM - is someone eating them? My 10pm guilt is also chronic.
    Hats off for attempting 5 - worst comes to worst I'm sure a few animalistic sockless, naked kid days aren't going to scar anyone too much!!!

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  4. Ha, ha, so true! I totally have that 'animal mama envy' too! x

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  5. Hmmm - car trips are totally over-rated. Online grocery shopping is the way to go my friend!!
    Phil 4:6.... peace and grace to you..... xxx

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  6. How I cope with getting kids into the car without wanting to leave them all on the side of the road and drive away!!!!

    #1 - we have specific seats for each child so that they all know where they have to sit and they have 'their' day that they get to sit in the front - 5 kids = one day each!! (by the way thats also the day they dont have to do jobs, get to say grace and have an hour on the computer!!)
    #2 - they all learnt from a really early age to do up their own seatbelts!

    Also I set up an 'odd' sock drawer where all the random socks go and now the kids know to just raid that when they cant find a pair!! More often than not they have a slightly odd pair but I learnt a long time ago to buy only navy socks so even if they dont match they are close enough!!

    You are an amazing mama and such an inspiration to all of us, you will be wonderful with 5 and truly they just fit in and life carries on, after a few weeks you wont know what you were worried about!!

    Hope tonights better and you get a full nights sleep!! xxx

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  7. I HATE the car thing! argh
    has been much easier since moving schools and they now walk themselves every morning, and we are slowly moving away from all the car seat buckling up (youngest can now work it all herself sometimes, seemingly not so whenever we are in a hurry.
    I never thought about those times like that before but whoa SO TRUE!
    And I know you'll rock 5 kids. You're awesome. you'd even rock it to 6 and beyond ;p

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  8. haha just read the comment above mine, so relate. My kids always wear odd socks.

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  9. I love this post! I can so relate to the night time worrying, I'm a pseudo insomniac from way back, I could write a book about night time worrying!!

    As for getting five kids in the car, I nearly had a heart attack just thinking about it! Wrangling one toddler into the car is enough to put me off going out most days - I don't know how my parents did it... (although, back then seatbelts weren't compulsory, and we had a bedford van with mattresses in the back... Guess they just shoved us all in and started the engine...)

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  10. Oh lots of children in the car, i'm your mummy!! My husband lives 1350km away, across 2 states, we visit him every 10 weeks (no, he's not in prison, he's in the Army & i stayed behind at our last posting for a bit of school consistency as the eldest is in high school).
    Ok, so i have 4 aged 12 to 7, in the car we read . . . talk . . . embroider (don't laugh) & other hand crafts like crochet, knit & stitch. While we look positively Amish, we don't have any electronic gadgets, no DVD players, no hand held games, if the children are over looking out the window, they have to talk to each other. I trap one child in the front next to me so they HAVE to talk to me.
    I do download cool music (they have to like my music, i'm hopefully young enough to be in tune with them, taste NOT singing) & we have a ball.
    Our trip to school is 25km each way, sometimes in traffic, sometimes stuck behind a tractor, so we look out for kangaroos & farm animals, it's fun, even after 4 years in this city, they still love the trip, every day.
    I refuse to feel guilty about any way or part of my parenting, i do my best, love them to pieces, do as much handmade, homemade as possible & they know they are loved to pieces. My husband does what he has to for our family, war zones, whatever, i treasure that i'm a full time mum of many & do it really well. As for the early morning breast feeds, i was uber lucky my 4 slept through the night from 3 weeks, so maybe i never got the chance to even consider what i could possibly feel guilty about.
    I feel more guilty about the things i haven't done for myself - eaten enough vegetables, the gym, walk the dog, the children truly come first, but it's not forever, having 4 in 4 years (twins in the middle) i know, poof, they'll all be adults in no time, embracing the time i have with them now, then i can work on myself, little bits now, more later.
    You're doing an awesome job, all children truly need is your time, positive attention & love, they know they have you, you rest easy. Now i have 9 months of a husband in a war zone ahead of me, ask me what i think about 4a.m., it's not the children & no, i can never get back to sleep so if i do wake, i dread it, so do housework, at least it's productive!! Love Posie

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  11. I don't have kids but I completely relate to the 3-4am worry hour. If I ever wake up during those times my barely concious brain starts to be completely irrational. I start worrying that I'm going to have a heart attack in my 20's because I eat too many hamburgers, or that I'm going to end up homeless because I don't have enough money in my savings account. Why do our brains do that?

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  12. I'm actually kinda glad to know you can still have 'freak out' moments about adding to the family ;-)

    Oh and worry and guilt try to be my friends more than I want them to - so glad I am not alone. Although mine aren't limited to 10pm and 3am though, I just get random attacks out of nowhere...that's where I just have to remember to turn them into prayer :-)

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  13. and here i am worried about having a second one! i will be thinking of you at 3am in awe...

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  14. ohhh so many great comments - I have no advice for getting 5 children into a car...other than throw a load of sweets in and scream 'SCRAMBLE'...I should add, I actually never do this with my own children, but, maybe I should!
    10pm ditto (although, I normally do mine just before I go to sleep, you know, when you do the inventory of the day)
    3am ditto I HATE 3am...why why why

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  15. Thank You xxx I'm just glad to know I'm not alone in the 4am depression hour . . .

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  16. Loving this post Dee - you are awesome.

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